December 28, 2015 at 12:17 am #9804MariahParticipant
Hi. I am new to these forums and I’d love to get some input on a difficulty I am facing. I am not new to guns, I grew up learning to shoot and knowing where my dad kept defensive weapons in the house and such and my husband and I are very much gun advocates, but I am relatively new to conceal carrying. I got my permit and my own pistol when I turned 21, but shortly after and before I could really find a holster that worked for me, I became pregnant with our first child, then I nursed her for over a yearn no then became pregnant with our second. So I haven’t really had an opportunity to learn about how to conceal carry as a woman, let alone as a mother with young kids. I think I have found a great holster that should work well for my needs, I have decided to get a aDene Adams. My carry gun is a Kahr CW9 9mm. I tried some of the small sub compact guns and I hate them, so I chose this because I am confident and proficient with it. Long story short….my dilemma is, house to a safely conceal carry on my person while still being able to go about my role as a mom (ie. Picking up my 2 year old and 3 month old, nursing my youngest, got g to playgroups and other such things) with out having to worry about becoming one of those stories where the mother is shot by a curious toddler who found her gun? I’m already trying to minimize that chance by carrying on my body rather than in a purse/diaper bag (I feel like that just asking for trouble with little kids), but I’m concerned about a wandering hand when holding my kids or (a ridiculously, probably unwarranted paranoid thought) a thrashing kid kicking or hitting the gun (not on purpose, but just because of where it’s located). I feel totally unsafe when out and about by myself with the kids (my husband carries, so I dnt feel that way when he’s there) but I also don’t want to put us in more danger by bringing a gun into a non-gun friendly situation, namely having a toddler around. Does all of that make sense? Sorry for the ramble, I’m still trying to figure out how to exactly put all my thoughts and concerns into complete and coherent thoughts.
December 30, 2015 at 8:08 pm #9811KarinaParticipant
I have a 2 year old daughter and I’ve already started talking to her about guns. She knows Mommy and Daddy both have them, and she knows what they both look like. Every time I have it out, I tell her “This is Mommy’s gun. You don’t touch guns – only Mommy or Daddy. If you see a gun, let Mommy or Daddy know and we will take care of it.” I’ve told her this so many times that now if she sees our guns, she will repeat the statement on her own.
That said – I currently purse carry. If I am not holding the purse, I keep it high up on a shelf or hook out of her reach. The purse also has a locking zipper, so I can keep her out that way. I feel confident that she would not be able to get the gun from the purse.
I have appendix carried with a holster before. The only problem for me is that its uncomfortable to hold her on my hip when carrying with a holster. Beyond that, the holster holds the gun quite snugly, so I do not feel that she could accidentally kick it out. The holster covers all the “dangerous” parts so there is no way she could accidentally pull the trigger unless she pulled the gun right out. Also, carrying inside the waistband and under my shirt, it would be really hard for her to pull the gun out.
I think that carrying on the body is the most preferable because it gives you the most control over the gun. Have you tried practicing carrying around the house to get more comfortable with it?
January 1, 2016 at 4:34 pm #9813Erin heylParticipant
I have two children, 5 years and 2 years. I also use the Dene Adams corset holster. It is by far the most comfortable and safely concealed way I have found to be armed, but still be able to pick up and carry kids without them hitting or catching on a holster and fun. Dene Adams now makes a custom kydex trigger guard you can order for like $25 for an extra layer of pprotection, I just ordered one too.
March 30, 2016 at 8:53 am #10233HeidiParticipant
I am a plus sized breastfeeding mom with a 2 & 1/2-year old & a 1-year old, both kids all over me all the time. I’ve successfully CCW’d for over 2-years, with a break in CCW while pregnant with baby #2.
I use the IWB Alien Gear 3.0, concealing a sub-compact 9mm in the 3:30 to 4:30 position. My “trick” to conceal while breastfeeding & managing toddlers is to use lots of layers. An undershirt to help shield the sharp/rough spots on the gun from my skin as well as shield my skin from view while moving the layers out of the way for the baby to nurse, another shirt (t-shirt, sweater etc) over the undershirt, then a vest or over shirt if necessary to further conceal any printing depending on how the 2nd shirt fits.
I’ve found that by talking to my eldest about mommy & daddy’s guns and that they are not toys, that he has been satisfied so far; isnt overly curious, has only ever tried to touch my gun one time, & that was because I was holding him & it was poking him in the leg. There is an article/blog post that might help you, that I will link to at the bottom, that talks about moms, guns, conceal carry & what to do if our tots reach for our firearms.
All in all, the best way to become comfortable with your rig around your kids is to wear it around the house, without the ammunition if you’re more comfortable that way, till you figure out how you want to wear it & so forth.
December 19, 2016 at 11:06 am #10870athena nyeParticipant
Has anybody had any success or failures when using a wrap or baby carrier? They both wrap around the waist/hip so I’m not sure if it would be comfortable but most importantly that it would be accessible. I have an 8 wk old I carry in it, a 15 mo toddler I have to carry a lot and a 3.5 yr old I carry on occasion. I am slightly hesitant to use a purse because of the 15 mo but want to feel safe when I go out alone with them.
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