OK, ladies – your home is like a fortress and you have a safe room stocked and ready. Are you ready? I mean really ready, to handle a home invasion? This is Part 3 in a series on protecting yourself in your home and today the discussion will be on mental preparedness.
Everything “tangible” is in place and ready. However, mental preparation is necessary. If the unthinkable happens and we are not mentally prepared, we will be in such a high state of stress that we will not be able to utilize all the tools we have physically prepared to protect ourselves.
Do you have a defensive mindset? We must live our lives with a defensive mindset; always be aware of what and who is around us and what their proximity or actions mean or may mean to our safety. Be prepared and willing to use force to protect yourself most of all.
Owning a firearm for your protection symbolizes your willingness to take the life of another human being as a last resort to save your life. However, if you are not prepared to do so, you are not ready to own a firearm for self-protection. Being “willing to” is not the same thing as “wanting to”. Be clear on what you are willing to do and what you are not willing to do and make clear choices based on your will.
Determination is another powerful mental muscle that is to your survival. Determination is never giving up and having the drive to survive. This is the single most important factor in surviving a life threatening situation. You must have this attitude if forced to fight for your life. We have all heard stories of the “underdog” coming from behind; the smaller, weaker opponent finding some miraculous drive and power to overcome impossible odds. That MUST be you.
MENTAL PREPAREDNESS PLAN
In the last two articles we developed two plans for protecting yourself: 1. To fortify and improve the security of our home to prevent an invasion and 2. A plan of what you will do in the event your home is invaded. Consequently, we must also have a mental plan in order to be emotionally ready to act. Your mental plan begins with thinking through “what would I do if…” scenarios. This exercise will help you to consider possible attack scenarios and, as a result, formulate your mental plan. This requires you to visualize and go through possible attack scenarios.
Be specific and run through multiple different possibilities, such as: Is there more than one assailant? Do they have guns, knives or another weapon? What if they grab one of the children? What if I come home and find my door unlocked or broken into? Such graphic visualizations are necessary. Creating your plan on how you will respond to each scenario is critical to increasing your mental preparedness and hence your ability to protect yourself and those you love. Finally, finish all visualizations with you being successful in protecting yourself and prevailing over the assailant(s). This builds your confidence. If you are ever in such a life threatening situation, it will guide and enhance your effectiveness.
Just as it is necessary to practice your gun handling and shooting skills, you must also exercise your mental skills. These two well-honed skills working together are the means to protecting yourself in your home. You simply can’t have one without the other, you must be both mentally and physically prepared and trained.